Comments on: Becoming bold http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/ Wed, 16 Aug 2006 13:17:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: susan http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-304 susan Tue, 18 Apr 2006 22:22:35 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-304 At a size 6 I was unhappy. I thought I looked fat in our vacation photos and wanted to lose "just 6 more pounds". If you don't solve your emotional issues, you're unhappy at any weight. At a size 6 I was unhappy. I thought I looked fat in our vacation photos and wanted to lose “just 6 more pounds”. If you don’t solve your emotional issues, you’re unhappy at any weight.

]]> By: carlaviii http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-297 carlaviii Sat, 15 Apr 2006 04:31:42 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-297 I suppose my three more inches of height would explain it. And I'm an "apple" body type, as opposed to a "pear". At the end of a long day, that just really threw me for a loop. And I like that your blog's name comes from an Eleanore Roosevelt quote. She's a great source of wisdom about female strength. I suppose my three more inches of height would explain it. And I’m an “apple” body type, as opposed to a “pear”. At the end of a long day, that just really threw me for a loop.

And I like that your blog’s name comes from an Eleanore Roosevelt quote. She’s a great source of wisdom about female strength.

]]> By: Kerri http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-296 Kerri Fri, 14 Apr 2006 20:54:08 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-296 Beth, Thanks so much for this post. I came to a similar conclusion for myself a few years ago when I was at an all-time high weight and in a severe depression: How can I take better care of myself when I don't even like myself? I've had many fits and starts, but ever since then I've tried daily to find something about myself that I like, that I am proud of, that I can honor. Some days it's everything about me: mind, body, and sprit. Other days, when the critic in my head is on overdrive, it might just be the curve of my ankles, buy hey, whatever works. When I'm thinking about what I like, my brain doesnt' have room to think about all the things that are "wrong." I love the idea of being bold. Reminds me of a moment I had in Walgreen's recently. I was looking for a new lipstick and my final choice was based almost completely on the name of the color: Moxie. EVery girl needs a little moxie, right? Have a great weekend! Beth,

Thanks so much for this post. I came to a similar conclusion for myself a few years ago when I was at an all-time high weight and in a severe depression: How can I take better care of myself when I don’t even like myself?

I’ve had many fits and starts, but ever since then I’ve tried daily to find something about myself that I like, that I am proud of, that I can honor. Some days it’s everything about me: mind, body, and sprit. Other days, when the critic in my head is on overdrive, it might just be the curve of my ankles, buy hey, whatever works. When I’m thinking about what I like, my brain doesnt’ have room to think about all the things that are “wrong.”

I love the idea of being bold. Reminds me of a moment I had in Walgreen’s recently. I was looking for a new lipstick and my final choice was based almost completely on the name of the color: Moxie. EVery girl needs a little moxie, right? Have a great weekend!

]]> By: Beth http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-295 Beth Fri, 14 Apr 2006 14:22:36 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-295 Debra, your comment about becoming a person you can count on reminds me of something Ann Richards (former TX gov) said: <blockquote> Learn to enjoy your own company. You are the one person you can count on living with for the rest of your life. </blockquote> This was why my second <a href="http://www.actboldly.com/2006/03/26/the-lightbulb-moment/" rel="nofollow">"a ha" moment</a> was so important. And like I've said before, it's as much about finding out just how much personal power you actually have that is really amazing to me. And Carla, I do have big boobs (currently 42H), but I'm also pretty bottom heavy (I just measured; my 56" hips would put me in a 26/28). I'm betting I'm a lot shorter than you (I'm 5' 3"). Or else you just have a lot more muscle than I. Debra, your comment about becoming a person you can count on reminds me of something Ann Richards (former TX gov) said:

Learn to enjoy your own company. You are the one person you can count on living with for the rest of your life.

This was why my second “a ha” moment was so important. And like I’ve said before, it’s as much about finding out just how much personal power you actually have that is really amazing to me.

And Carla, I do have big boobs (currently 42H), but I’m also pretty bottom heavy (I just measured; my 56″ hips would put me in a 26/28). I’m betting I’m a lot shorter than you (I’m 5′ 3″). Or else you just have a lot more muscle than I.

]]> By: Debra http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-294 Debra Fri, 14 Apr 2006 12:00:12 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-294 Beth, you continue to delight me with your writing and sensibility. I like hearing that somebody, somewhere has finally admitted that a sense of self-worth comes from the inside of a person. It is not what others think of us that makes us feel good, it's what we think of ourselves that counts. And what we think of ourselves is based upon, in part, what we do. As the saying goes, when you do better, you feel better. When you eat well, exercise and take care of yourself, you become a person you can count on, which leads to a genuine sense of self-esteem. This point of view has a lot of utility since you cannot control what others think, you cannot help how you were raised nor the genetic endowment you received. You cannot help how you feel or sometimes what you think. But, you can control your own actions. Assuming responsibility for this IS a bold action in a culture which encourages everyone to default to victimhood as a first line of defense. Beth, you continue to delight me with your writing and sensibility. I like hearing that somebody, somewhere has finally admitted that a sense of self-worth comes from the inside of a person. It is not what others think of us that makes us feel good, it’s what we think of ourselves that counts. And what we think of ourselves is based upon, in part, what we do. As the saying goes, when you do better, you feel better. When you eat well, exercise and take care of yourself, you become a person you can count on, which leads to a genuine sense of self-esteem. This point of view has a lot of utility since you cannot control what others think, you cannot help how you were raised nor the genetic endowment you received. You cannot help how you feel or sometimes what you think. But, you can control your own actions. Assuming responsibility for this IS a bold action in a culture which encourages everyone to default to victimhood as a first line of defense.

]]> By: carlaviii http://www.actboldly.com/2006/04/13/becoming-bold/comment-page-1/#comment-293 carlaviii Fri, 14 Apr 2006 03:54:56 +0000 http://www.actboldly.com/?p=155#comment-293 OK, I wanted to say something witty and/or enlightened, but I got stuck on this: >I’m pretty happy with my 259 lbs right now. The woman with the size 24 jeans is smaller than I am, but she’s miserable. I wear 24 jeans. I weigh <i>35 pounds more</i> than you. And obviously even more than the lady on the TV! What the heck? I've got some boobs on me, I'll admit, but they're not THAT big! Now the science side of my brain is all in a tizzy. Density? Distribution? Fat head? Where's the extra 35+? OK, I wanted to say something witty and/or enlightened, but I got stuck on this:

>I’m pretty happy with my 259 lbs right now. The woman with the size 24 jeans is smaller than I am, but she’s miserable.

I wear 24 jeans. I weigh 35 pounds more than you. And obviously even more than the lady on the TV! What the heck? I’ve got some boobs on me, I’ll admit, but they’re not THAT big!

Now the science side of my brain is all in a tizzy. Density? Distribution? Fat head? Where’s the extra 35+?

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